"It's time..."

We have turned a corner in our journey with HD.  It is time for us to consider a higher level of care for our son.

With several falls in a month's time, and Lacy's transition to using a wheelchair exclusively, we have to consider what is best for him and for the people who care for him.  He's been to the ER so many times, cutting his face, forehead, and nose; breaking a tooth, suffering a mild concussion.  And now it is not even safe for him to use his walker any more.  Lacy seems to be taking the changes in stride.

We've been e-mailing back and forth with the staff at Life Styles.  We all have come to the same conclusion:  "It's time," one of the staff members wrote.

We don't know how to explain this to Lacy.  What will we say that can prepare him for a transition from a place he has called home for 7 years to a nursing home where he will have to follow a regimen that is not of his own choosing.  We will do what we can to ease his transition.

Kenny and I are praying for wisdom.  We are at a loss.  Somehow, we will find our way.  Somehow, God will make a way.  There will be a path; "Here is the way....walk in it."

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  1. Uncle KennyOctober 8, 2015 at 7:36 PM

    Remember the time when it was time to tell Lacy about the death of a new friend. I asked him to walk with me to the mailbox. As I fumbled for words and finally came to the point that his friend Kevin had died Lacy said without missing a beat "Oh? You mean God changed his address?"

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